Love Isn’t Enough? Love is Enough? Which is it?

Is Love Really Enough?

Is Love Really Enough? What are Your Thoughts?

True love trumps all right? Some say love isn’t enough some say love is enough..

What do you believe is true?

If a couple has love what can stand between them?

We’ve all expressed that “I want to fall in love” so how come when we finally do and when the 2 of you love each other so dang much there is still so much confusion, conflict and lack of mutual direction for the relationship?

Why does the man who loves you to pieces not want to move to the next level and get engaged or married? Or why does your guy balk at the suggestion

of having kids together? How do you get him to commit without using blackmail or a frying pan?

Can the old Patty Smyth song “Sometimes Love Just Ain’t Enough” be correct?

I came across a great article with some advice I think you will find extremely helpful… it will help you determine for your self whether…

Love isn’t enough… or… Love is enough… by T.W. Jackson from GirlGetsRing.com

Loving someone whole-heartedly is simply not everything you need to create and sustain a successful, committed relationship. It won’t make your boyfriend magically want to marry you and put up the white picket fence….

Luckily it doesn’t have to be so difficult to navigate the murky waters of your man’s emotional undercurrent.

Us men are relatively simple creatures for the most part, and operate with only a handful of deeply rooted desires when it comes to loving a woman and accepting her love in return.

When you feed these deeply rooted desires we feel almost compelled to move forward and commit to you…

Two of the Deepest Rooted Desires of Men Everywhere

1. We want to be loved for our “true self”.

That almost sounds like something a woman would say right? But it’s true… men often hold two images of themselves in their mind’s eye. One is how he sees himself. The other is how he believes other’s see him. Or more importantly how he believes YOU see him.

It’s something I like to call the Masculine Hero Avatar Principle (MHAP for short!) which I talk about more deeply in GirlGetsRing. There are actually 4 of these MHAP’s, but we’ll just stick with two for today.

The bottom line is that just as you need to feel loved, flaws and all… so does your man. He just doesn’t know how to tell you that or even tell himself that!

2. Every man feels deep down he’s on his own personal life journey with something extremely important he’s destined to accomplish. Ergo we want a woman who will understand us even better than we do and will help us with discovering and living out our important destiny.

The problem is while a man might feel the above things deep down in their heart of hearts they don’t always know it on a coherent level. And if they don’t know it on a coherent level, they certainly aren’t able to verbalize it or knowingly reveal it to you.

So it’s pretty much up to you to figure it out for yourself and then be the woman that gives him exactly what his true self desires. Sounds a wee bit tough right?

Actually it’s not and I cover the why’s and how’s much more extensively in GirlGetsRing. It’s really much easier than you think and it’s based in large part around a premise that men feel things in three pretty broad strokes when dating a woman.

I liken it to what I call the Magic Traffic Signal.

The Magic Traffic Signal powerfully represents exactly how a man chooses to move forward in his relationships.

Just like a traffic signal, a man also has signals that send him positive, feel good vibes that motivate him to want to pursue you and move the relationship in a forward direction (aka his inner green light).

Or he gets signals that warn him to slow down, put on the brakes, and sometimes skid to a stop and reverse in another direction altogether (aka his inner yellow light and red light, respectively).

The rather twisted part is that the color of his signal has absolutely nothing to do with his love or attraction for you. They are two totally separate things. But in order for a man want to marry you or move deeper into a relationship, he must feel both the love in his heart and get the big glowing green light at the same time. So, while they are two separate things, they are still very connected.

There are some great insights in that passage.

Where do you feel your man’s magic traffic signal is at?

Are the two of you clear sailing moving into deeper levels of relationships… all lights green?

Or is there some serious deceleration and skidding to a stop going on as the result of a yellow light?

Or worse yet… have you been parked at a stand still long enough you are now collecting dust sitting at a red light?

Click on the “traffic signal” image on the right to see a video showing more about how to feed your man’s deepest rooted desires.

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